The beautiful Juliet Ibrahim took to her Instagram page to share some motivational words to mothers especially single mothers, speaking strongly about an absentee father.
Let’s not fool ourselves into thinking dat any woman grows up wit aspirations of raising a child by herself.
Why is it dat when a woman has sex wit someone, be it a boyfriend or her husband, & she’s left alone, that’s a reflection of her ability to make a sound decision?
What we’re saying is; She should hv been able to see into the future & know that the man she was having sex wit would leave. Either that, or we believe a woman should expect that by default, men will not handle their responsibilities. Now, if a woman did believe that, she would be labeled as “bitter” or “scorned”, labels that already plague single mothers. The woman will hv her guard up & would be used against her dat she doesn’t see a man for his potential & holds on to her past.
That is; if you’re never expected to do right, it won’t be counted as your fault when you do wrong. It becomes more of a responsibility of the person who was wronged to know that who she was dealing with would do her wrong, instead of the one who did her wrong to simply not be an asshole.
Why is the blame always on the woman just because it was her choice to end that relationship & the same applies to a single dad. Two people who were great for each other at a particular time in their lives may be better off finding love elsewhere after time has passed or things change. So it’s unreasonable to hold anyone accountable for their relationship status after their parental status has changed.
This is why some women find themselves putting up with a toxic relationship because of this fear. They hv to choose between being stranded or being damaged & unfortunately, choose the latter. Many single mothers chose to face that fear despite the stigma. Even for sake of family, it benefits no one to remain in an unhealthy relationship. An absentee father is better than an abusive or deadbeat one. When a woman chooses to face judgment, stress & responsibility for her child as opposed to a miserable relationship at d cost of her Mental & physical Health,it’s worth being commended